Staying in My Own Lane | East Texas Moms


“She silently stepped out of the race that she never wanted to be in, found her own lane and proceeded to win.” -unknown

It happens every year around this time. I should know better, but the temptation is too much. I step out of my lane and pretend that I belong on the “normal” route. The route (that I believe most people reside) where they eat what they want, hustle and bustle during the holiday season; and push themselves a little bit harder.

But this lane is unhealthy for me and I hit a crash during the winter months when I force myself into someone else’s lane. My body fights Hashimoto’s (a thyroid autoimmune disease ) among other chronic conditions. Sometimes I feel “normal” and enjoy those days to the fullest. That’s where the danger lies: me thinking I can ease on over out of my lane and race with the others. 

Here’s the things about lanes: every one is uniquely designed. Some curve a bit sooner, some have multiple hurdles placed ahead, some are designed for a quick run while others are built for endurance. Hmmm … just like our bodies, huh? So why then is it so hard to stay in our own lane?

Social media tells us that we should be the best: the best mommy, the best wife, the best friend, and the best worker. But what social media lacks is the defining factor of what makes us all special and unique. My body can’t do what your body can do. My house is not as clean as your house. I cannot work and push myself like you can. I do not look like you. My smile is not your smile, and my laugh does not sound like your laugh.

In short, we were designed to be unique human beings.

I say this to you reading and to remind myself that there is a lane for each of us. It might not be the race we thought we would be living, and it certainly does not look the same as the person next to you. The key is to find what works for you, live the best version of yourself, and then stay in that lane. If you can do that, you will proceed to win!

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Amanda and her husband live in Lindale where they are raising their two full-speed-ahead boys. She holds a Bachelor’s Degree from Stephen F. Austin and is a former 5th grade Reading teacher. A lifelong learner, Amanda has returned to her roots. Writing is her passion and therapy. It is in her bones and she loves every moment of it! Amanda is a southern gal who loves all things girly: the sparkle of new earrings, the glamour of a perfectly red lipstick, and the pain in your foot after wearing new heels to a smoldering outdoor BBQ (true story). She has proclaimed to be many things: an old soul born in the wrong era, a land-locked mermaid, and bull in a china shop. A book lover since she can remember, Amanda indulges herself in the smell of freshly printed pages and can’t stand the stench of an old book… she wonders “who else has touched that book and what images did they conjure up as they read the very same tale?” This thing is for certain however, Amanda is a mother who believes in the power of Faith, dreams, and imagination. One of Amanda’s most favorite quotes by Erin Hanson gives wings to her dreams: “What if I fall? Oh, but darling, what if you fly?”