Goal setting as a family?
It sounds a little daunting, right?
Actually, goal setting with your family can be a lot of fun.
We talk about goal setting and evaluate our progress in our professional lives but most times we don’t use these same techniques in our homes. Whether you work outside the home or work as a stay at home mom full time, goal setting is an important component of moving your personal and family life in a positive direction.
Don’t be afraid to be a visionary for your family. Lead the way and work with your family to set goals and make concrete plans for this brand new year.
Follow these six steps to make dreaming big and goal setting a fun and rewarding experience for the entire family.
Step 1: Preview Party
Make this fun and engaging for the entire family, especially your kids. Meet together one evening with a bowl of popcorn and a sweet treat and get ready to brainstorm and dream together. I like to get big pieces of paper so we can write down all of the ideas that pop in our heads. Markers and big sheets of paper get the kids’ attention every time.
Explain that as a family and individually you will be working on some specific goals this year to grow as a family. This is the time to dream big together and brainstorm ways to support one another in your goals.
For example, Mom and Dad may desire more date nights to foster their relationship. It is important that our kids know why this alone time together is important to us and to see us set this example for them in their future relationships.
One of the kiddos may want to target improving her reading level through focused reading time at home. The entire family can come along side her and support her in taking the necessary actions at home to reach this goal.
And finally, the entire family may have the dream of taking a family vacation to Disney this year. Everyone can work together to save money in lots of ways. Eating at home instead of driving through the drive through and more family game nights at home to name a few.
Remember, this is a party. Make it fun and use this opportunity to teach your kids to dream big.
Step 2: Narrow It Down
Come back together as a family within a few days and narrow down your goals, both personally and as a family unit. I recommend starting with one personal goal each and one larger family goal to work on together. Choosing too many goals can be overwhelming and seem to water down the efforts that the goal will get from everyone. If you keep the number of goals you are working on low, there is a much better opportunity to accomplish them.
Moms, remember that you are important too. This is a great time for you to set a personal goal of showing yourself some self love this year. Consider making it a goal to fit in daily exercise, take one night a month for yourself and spend some time with your best girlfriends, or simply make it a goal to read a good book once a month. Taking care of yourself keeps you in the right frame of mind to be the best mom you can be.
Step 3: Everybody Get S.M.A.R.T.
Did you know that 42% of people are more likely to achieve their goals by writing them down?
Use the S.M.A.R.T method to put your individual and family goals in writing.
- Specific – What do you want to achieve? The more specific your description of your goal the bigger chance you will accomplish it.
- Measurable – What concrete evidence will you have when you reach your goal? A measurable goal means that you can identify exactly what it is you will see, hear, and feel when you reach your goal.
- Attainable – Definitely shoot for the stars but also make sure that your goal is realistic to you. If you haven’t run around the block yet then a full marathon might be too much at the start. Consider starting with a 5K and reaching that goal first. Not only will you feel the success of the goal reached, but also you will have a foundation on which to set your next goal.
- Relevant – Make your goal relevant to what you do and are working on accomplishing in your life already.
- Timely – Break your goal down into a tentative plan. We all know that deadlines are what make most people switch to action. So give yourself deadlines and go after them.
Step 4: Create a Family Vision Board
Use pictures, markers, stickers, etc to make a colorful dream board or “vision board” for the family to share. Post it in a prominent place in your home and refer to it often. Creating a vision board together gives the family a sense of ownership and provides a daily reminder of the goals you are working towards as a family.
Step 5: Take Action
Make a plan together as a family to take action towards your goals daily. Monitor your goals periodically as a family by chatting about them over dinner, on the commute to school, or simply whenever you get some free moments.
Step 6: Celebrate Your Success
By the end of the year I hope it will possible for you to say “we did it”. Decide how you will celebrate one another’s successes as you accomplish your goals. A family movie date. A weekend trip away. It doesn’t have to be big but celebrating your successes along the way makes the journey that much more fun.
I know that it can seem daunting to create the time with your family to go through this process of dreaming and setting goals. But by following these six steps, it can be a fun and rewarding experience for everyone.
Picture the look on your kiddos’ face when they feel the accomplishment of reaching their goal. With your support, your family can end this year having reached personal and family goals and be inspired to continue this process year after year.
Dream big together. Grow together. Be bold together.