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Several weeks ago, I posted a poll of sorts on my personal Facebook page. I asked the question:

Did you work in high school? If so, where?

The response that I got was amazing. I got input on why or why not. People were happy to share what they did while living at home and in school. Also, folks were willing to share what they would be or are doing with their own children. 

This all started while I was thinking through my oldest turning 13 and my youngest moving out of single digits and trying to determine what needed to be happening in the department of WORK!

You see, I believe it is our job (mine and my husband’s) to work toward raising good human beings who have big hearts, good work ethic and let’s be honest… are an asset to society. This all has to happen really in those first 18 years or I’m afraid we’ll be out of time. 

We have found ourselves working to add responsibilities as our kiddos have aged up and have even moved in the direction of them earning a wage for certain responsibilities that they complete each week. But the question still lingers…will we make them work outside the home once they are in high school? Here are a few of my personal thoughts. I can’t say that these are written in stone because remember, I’m in those beginning stages of contemplating what the future will hold for my own children.

PROS:

  • Learn how to manage time
  • Learn how to work for someone other than family
  • Learn how to follow the rules of their place of employment
  • Learn how to manage money (what to save, what to spend, what to give)
  • Learn to work with others and for others
  • Help with expenses that come with a teenager (i.e. car, insurance, gas money, date money, wants)
  • Learn new responsibilities
  • Explore a potential career path

CONS:

  • Overextended schedule (school, extra curricular + work)
  • Focus shifts from being a good student into making money
  • Late night hours during the week
  • Thrust into “bill responsibilities” early
  • Possible shortened “kid” years

While we recognize that EVERY situation and child is different, we do feel like as parents we want to be on the same page with whatever we decide and whatever we feel like the needs of our family are. I worked in high school, but my sister did not. We both turned out fine! I believe that we do the best parenting that we know to do in that season. It’s actually pretty hard for me to even begin to make a firm decision today about what we will make our girls do in the next 5 years. Let’s be honest- right now, I just want them to pick up their rooms!

I’d LOVE to hear what you have to say about this topic! Leave us a comment.

 

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Meet Beth. Owner/Founder of East Texas Moms Blog. She is a born and raised East Texan who after moving away for 12 years, realized very quickly that coming home and raising a family where the roots are, wasn't all that bad. She has been married to Stephen for 20 years and they have two beautifully unique daughters, Keatyn (15) and Addilyn (12). Beth spends her free time (but really what is that) running, consuming decent amounts of wine and coffee with her friends and enjoying local food. For many years she has run her own businesses from home, which has allowed her to learn so much about who she is, what her strengths are and ultimately lead her to here. She's passionate about her community and being a wife and mom. Though she loves her small town, she often dreams of more sidewalks for riding her bicycle with a basket.

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  1. Another thing to consider is the actual job itself, they’re not all equally valuable. Some jobs are more flexible & leave you with more control over your schedule like yard work, babysitting, tutoring, making things to sell from home, etc. Some jobs are a better environment for your teen than others. Spend 30 minutes in a place when they’re not busy and listen to the employees talking amongst themselves. See how the boss acts when things get busy or otherwise stressful. You may decide you don’t want your kid working there or that it would be a great opportunity for your teen. Learning how to be an entrepreneur allows kids to see the different aspects of running a business and learn how the world of business works, those aspects are often done out of sight of your teen working for a larger corporation.

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